Girl, Wash Your Face - My Thoughts
I was inspired to read this book by a coworker, and I'm glad I got it. I am currently about half way through it and have to weight in on it. It's a good book, very inspiring, and lots of truth to it...but when it comes to the "momming" parts of the book...I'm sorry, its unrealistic UNLESS you have a spouse around. The book completely caters to a married woman who has a spouse there to help with the children, and I can't help but be bothered by the fact that Rachel Hollis talks about how busy she is and how she misses out on so many things with her kids because of work, yet went on to have four children. I'm not trying to be judgmental, because the book is all about not judging other women, but seriously...If you are already struggling to balance, why have more children? If you already have minimal time to spend with your kids, why take on even more?
I AM IN NO WAY SHAMING WORKING MOMS - I AM ONE
As you will know from my previous posts, I am a mom who works full time so I want to make it very clear that I do not find any problem with that. I also do not see any issue with a mom who chooses to stay home with her children, if that is what her and her spouse decide is best for them, or if she has the financial means to do so. I do not see an issue with a working mom, either. But I can't help but cringe when parents have kids just to put them with a babysitter for 18 hours a day. Now, I don't know Rachel Hollis, but in her book she makes herself sound like she is balls to the wall 24/7, and as many of you know her husband held a prestigious position with Disney...so why have FOUR children?
It kills me when I hear moms who complain about being tired, complain about being busy, complain about this and that...and then I find out that they have a partner who helps, or that they are a stay at home mom and their husband makes plenty of money to pay the bills.
Should I not judge another mom? Probably not but guess what? I am, and I do. I judge a mom who can't keep up with the first two children and decides to have two more. I judge the mom who says she doesn't have time to feed her kids healthy, but finds time to watch The Bachelor every Monday night. I judge the mom who says she co-sleeps because its "easier" than teaching her child to sleep in his own bed.
I judge those things because many of you may not know, but I am a single mom who does it all alone. I do not have help financially in any way, physically in any way, or emotionally. My family lives 1000 miles away, and so the help I get is usually once every other month when my mom visits for a few days at a time. I don't blame anyone for this, but I will say this - I judge the shit out of some moms, and I can't help it.
Rachel Hollis - I would love to take some me time - go get a pedicure, go to the gym, go out for dinner...but me time doesn't exist to single moms with no family around. So guess what? My pedicure is done in my living room by myself after my daughter falls asleep. My gym time? That's done in my garage with weights and mats that I bought on my own when shes napping on the weekends or in bed for the night. And going out to dinner? Every dinner I have is with Emma, and I'm pretty okay with that. I guess I am one of the lucky ones who doesn't need time away.
I AM IN NO WAY SHAMING WORKING MOMS - I AM ONE
As you will know from my previous posts, I am a mom who works full time so I want to make it very clear that I do not find any problem with that. I also do not see any issue with a mom who chooses to stay home with her children, if that is what her and her spouse decide is best for them, or if she has the financial means to do so. I do not see an issue with a working mom, either. But I can't help but cringe when parents have kids just to put them with a babysitter for 18 hours a day. Now, I don't know Rachel Hollis, but in her book she makes herself sound like she is balls to the wall 24/7, and as many of you know her husband held a prestigious position with Disney...so why have FOUR children?
It kills me when I hear moms who complain about being tired, complain about being busy, complain about this and that...and then I find out that they have a partner who helps, or that they are a stay at home mom and their husband makes plenty of money to pay the bills.
Should I not judge another mom? Probably not but guess what? I am, and I do. I judge a mom who can't keep up with the first two children and decides to have two more. I judge the mom who says she doesn't have time to feed her kids healthy, but finds time to watch The Bachelor every Monday night. I judge the mom who says she co-sleeps because its "easier" than teaching her child to sleep in his own bed.
I judge those things because many of you may not know, but I am a single mom who does it all alone. I do not have help financially in any way, physically in any way, or emotionally. My family lives 1000 miles away, and so the help I get is usually once every other month when my mom visits for a few days at a time. I don't blame anyone for this, but I will say this - I judge the shit out of some moms, and I can't help it.
Rachel Hollis - I would love to take some me time - go get a pedicure, go to the gym, go out for dinner...but me time doesn't exist to single moms with no family around. So guess what? My pedicure is done in my living room by myself after my daughter falls asleep. My gym time? That's done in my garage with weights and mats that I bought on my own when shes napping on the weekends or in bed for the night. And going out to dinner? Every dinner I have is with Emma, and I'm pretty okay with that. I guess I am one of the lucky ones who doesn't need time away.
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